What’s not being said.

When I write I tend to write a lot about things which I’m emotionally detached from. That’s why I am often vague about things I’m still working through, or why some people are given protection, and others I happily write about wily-nily. It may also be why I don’t write so much about my children.

I really want to be a mummy blogger, writing about my kids Miss N and Mr H, and taking cute photos of them; except I kind of don’t. I don’t want Miss N and Mr H to be terribly embarrassed when they’ve discovered I’ve used one of their most embarrassing moments as a bloggable moment. I don’t really want their peers finding enough dirt like ‘how I op shop all of my children’s clothes’ because a) that’s not true, and b) although I love op shopping, they may not. These kids probably have non-alcoholic champagne tastes. I might leave all of those cutesy stories for their scrapbooks, of which there about six of already…. ooops.

So, children out the way, other topics I don’t like:

  • writing about my ex-husband (feels kind of weird to be saying that) — mostly because it’s not fair to him, but also it’s not a terribly interesting story.
  • money — I have plenty, and then I have none, and this is the way it will be for a few more years because I’d like to be at home with Harry until he is at least three.
  • people I love and have close friendships with. Their stories aren’t mine to share, and again, no one is going to find the story about my best friend’s husband’s mum’s dog interesting (then again, it is a really cute dog).
  • writing about theology. If theology is making sense of God, writing about theology is just an open invitation for people to let you know that your opinion is WRONG! I do believe that some opinions are wrong. But when it comes to theology, and religion as a whole, some people see it as a personal connection, other people see it as something entirely different. I like to believe that God didn’t make things that difficult for us to work though, and as we used to say at Bible College, ‘God is nice, and He likes us.’ (or She, if that flats your boat. I’m more open to the idea of God not using a pronoun.)
  • work. Because technically I am still am employee of an organisation, and I won’t say anything good or bad about them. I will go back one day and I think people need to be more responsible about what they share on social media about their workplaces.
  • volunteering. Girl Guides is everything to me, but I don’t write a lot about it. If I do, I like it to be endorsed somehow — for example, I wrote a report about travelling to India and it was published online. I also get things wrong, and I can’t do knots, and I’d rather sleep inside most nights.

For someone who likes to think of herself as an open book, I’m actually a pretty closed person. Sorry, not sorry, but also, if you really want to know, you could always ask.

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I like books, rubber ducks, 90s pop music and putting words on paper. Wrote a thesis on romance. Tea and learning tarot.

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