He’s just not that into you.

At 23 I read ‘He’s just not that into you’ and I was sure that my world had been changed. In fact, I journalled about it. Every single guy I had ever dated, liked or looked at sideways was no longer good enough. Ha! Boys suck!

On rereading though I find a lot of the argument flawed, and that’s because no body is perfect. I can recall SO many dumb moves boys I know made on girls they liked, and in some cases it still worked out. In all cases, those guys liked someone, were were that into them but they just went about it in really bizarre ways. The demographic for this book is probably US women in their late twenties and up. Australian dating culture is remarkably different, but the usual types you just aren’t into you exist anywhere you go.

The book isn’t feminist text at all — it’s all about waiting and wanting to be chased (not chaste though, phew) because that what men like to do, and they don’t like it when a woman does it.


Anyway. I recommend this book if you are looking for some answers behind bad relationships. Or, if you know someone in a bad relationship, and you want to help them. I don’t recommend this book if you think you’ll get annoyed at being told what to do.

Oh. Why did I read this again?

Masters — I’ve been reading some pop psychology and self help books to make a case for and against romance novels. This one worked well — all heroes in romance books are just not that into you.

I like books, rubber ducks, 90s pop music and putting words on paper. Wrote a thesis on romance. Tea and learning tarot.

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